Affair Fog Theory: Morphing

Blurred Face by AlexisBalcerzak

Part 5: Affair Fog Theory: Morphing One of the questions that hits the faithful spouse early on in the post-affair discovery  process is, “Why?” Why did the person we married, whom we trusted and committed our whole lives to – why did they have an affair? The need to know …

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Affair Fog Theory: Character Change

Who Are You

Part 4: Affair Fog Theory: Character Change Part 1: What is Affair Fog? Part 2: Affair Fog Theory: Mental Health Part 3: Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction Who IS This Person? I know him better than anybody - he’s not the man I’ve known for 20 years.” “I don’t even …

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Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction

Infidelity & Affair Help: The Myth of Sex Addiction

Part 3: Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction This third part of the affair fog series looks at the issue of sex addiction and whether it has validity as part of affair fog theory. It’s a lengthy article in order to adequately explore such a popular claim. Part 1: Affair Fog …

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Affair Fog Theory: Mental Health

The Affair Excuse: Mental Health

Part 2: Affair Fog Theory: Mental Health Part 1 of the Affair Fog Series identified common components of popular affair fog theory as including mental health disorders, sex/love addiction, character change, psychological morphing, and biochemicals. This post specifically discusses if mental health disorders can legitimately be considered affair fog. When faced with a cheater’s …

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What is Affair Fog?

Affair Fog

Part 1: The Affair Fog Series This is the first in a series of posts exploring the theory of affair fog in cheaters. What Is Affair Fog? Infidelity sites commonly refer to affair fog (as it applies to the cheater, though some will extend the scope of affair fog to also include confusion …

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Yes, Their Affair Was Your Fault

The Yes Game

The Blame Game Over the years we’ve talked to a lot of faithful partners after they have discovered their cheater’s affair. Most people who visit us are trying to understand why their partner has cheated and how this happened within their relationship. At this very painful point in their lives, people …

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Disengaging the Affair Drama Queen

You’ve collapsed on the floor in a puddle of tears as you try to deal with your cheater’s ongoing affair, distraught and devastated by the bomb that has detonated slap bang in the middle of your life. You’ve begged and pleaded for them to stop their affair, to come back …

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In the Space Between Yes and No

The space between yes and noIn the space between yes and no, there’s a lifetime. It’s the difference between the path you walk and the one you leave behind; it’s the gap between who you thought you could be and who you really are; its the legroom for the lies you’ll tell yourself in the future. 

~ Jodi Picoult

Affair Rationalizations: Who Stopped You?


When a cheater sets off on the journey to Affairsville, they pack a few items into their bindle before chirpily skipping down the hackneyed path that many others have forged ahead of them. Not least in that little bundle of important items are the cheater’s rationalizations for their affair. These rationalizations come in …

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Craving Approval

Dr Harriet BraikerIf you are an approval addict, your behavior is as easy to control as that of any other junkie. All a manipulator need do is a simple two-step process: Give you what you crave, and then threaten to take it away. Every drug dealer in the world plays this game. 
~ Dr Harriet B Braiker