Tag Archives: excuses
The Pornography Excuse
The IHG position on the sex addiction model is discussed in: Part 3: Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction ~ Wayfarer [hr] Pornography Is Not the Problem—You Are by David J. Ley Ph.D. Complaining about the dangers of porn distracts from personal responsibility. Porn is not addictive. Sex is not addictive. …
The “It Just Happened” Affair Myth
“I Wasn’t Looking for an Affair; It Just Happened.” by Michele Weiner-Davis Contrary to what many think, infidelity doesn’t just happen. Having been a therapist for a very long time has afforded me the opportunity to meet people from all walks of life with varied opinions, personalities, strengths and idiosyncratic …
Affairs After Mother’s Day Disappointments
A light-hearted look at the affair justification of, “I had an affair because I felt unappreciated on Mother’s Day” which is highlighted in AshMad’s registration statistics. This is a tongue-in-cheek article written by Rebel Wylie, an Australian mother who felt unappreciated and yet didn’t have an affair. ~ Wayfarer [hr] …
Affairs & Infidelity: Choice not Addiction
As we explored in It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction, despite popular culture labels, the idea of sex addiction is not based on any diagnostic criteria and was again recently excluded from the DSM (American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). Claiming ‘sex addiction’ as cause …
Affair Help: Excuses and Justifications
Affairs: “I Treated Myself to a Marital Crisis” by Aaron Ben-Zeév, Ph.D. Excuses for Having an Extramarital Affair “Whoever wants to be a judge of human nature should study people’s excuses.” ~ Hebbel “Fidelity is possible—anything is possible, if you’re stubborn and strong. But it’s not that important.” ~ Michelle …
Gaslighting & Denial in Affairs
It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction
Don’t Be A Sheeple - Infidelity Myths
Myths of Infidelity Source: PsychologyToday The people who are running from bed to bed creating disasters for themselves and everyone else don’t seem to know what they are doing. They just don’t get it. But why should they? There is a mythology about infidelity that shows up in the popular …
A Betrayed Spouse’s Story of Infidelity
After the Affair By Judy Wachs (edited) When the news broke about the Petraeus affair, my first thought was: “Here we go again. Another married man caught sleeping with a younger woman.” My second thought had more personal resonance: “I wonder what will happen to his marriage?” When I was …
