After the Affair

Jane RubiettaSomeone may have stolen your dream when it was young and fresh and you were innocent. Anger is natural. Grief is appropriate. Healing is mandatory. Restoration is possible.

~ Jane Rubietta

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Why Good People Stay in Bad Relationships by Dr Wendy Walsh It may be hard to believe, but I was once in a relationship for nine years where I was so unhappy, I cried nearly every day. A decade later, with a Ph.D. in …

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Not Wanting to Let Go

Whilst this post isn’t directly about the emotional aftermath after infidelity, it does have relevance. Often, when a cheater leaves the primary relationship (for the affair partner, or not) the faithful partner who is left behind can find it incredibly difficult to let go of the relationship. The reality is …

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Traps That Keep You Stuck

Infidelity & Affair Help: Chump Lady

Five Things That Keep You Stuck With a Cheater by Tracy Schorn Are you on the fence about leaving a cheater? Is this not their first rodeo? Here are some common traps that keep you stuck with a cheater and prevent you from moving on. 1. Hope. Codependency has been …

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Four Reasons I Cheated

Confession: Why I Cheated On My Husband by Marina Pearson The four reasons I unearthed and what they taught me about love. “How could you have done this to me, to us? Who are you and who did I marry?” With tears in his eyes, my ex-husband shouted and screamed …

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Unhitched - Lessons Learned When It’s All Over by Louise Rafkin Older Americans are splitting up in record numbers — one quarter of all divorces now involve people over 50.  In our new feature, Unhitched, longtime couples tell the story of their relationships, from romance to vows to divorce to …

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Reasons to Leave a Cheater

10 Reasons Not to Take Back a Cheating Husband by Kiri Blakeley Being cheated on is probably the most devastating thing that can happen to a relationship short of the other person dying. Actually, it can FEEL like your partner has died when you find how he (or she) has …

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Forgive a Cheater? (Part 2)

Helen Sampson

Yesterday’s post, Forgive a Cheater (Part 1) told Helen Sampson’s story of reconciling with her cheating husband, Brian. Why you should NEVER forgive a cheater by Helen Sampson (edited) Helen did. Here she explains why it was the biggest mistake of her life. The realisation almost took my breath away. …

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Healing From an Affair: Self-Focus

When you discover that an affair has hit your relationship, it can be an unpleasant surprise to also discover that you no longer know how to be yourself. It’s not uncommon for people to lose themselves in their marriage (or long term committed relationship), focusing on children, partner, household, and …

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Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?

Relationship Advice: Once a Cheater Always a Cheater? by Diana Kirschner. Ph.D. (edited) So you’ve been cheated on. It was devastating-like being kicked in the gut and thrown into the gutter. You couldn’t eat or function at work. Or maybe you were up all night watching old movies, crying and …

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