After the Affair

Jane RubiettaSomeone may have stolen your dream when it was young and fresh and you were innocent. Anger is natural. Grief is appropriate. Healing is mandatory. Restoration is possible.

~ Jane Rubietta

Reconciliation Advice to a Cheater

Good Advice For The Cheating Husband by Amy Koko (edited) This post is dedicated to husbands who have committed adultery. Of course I realize wives do it too but I only write about things of which I know or have experienced first hand, and in this situation I was the …

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Emotional First Aid

Infidelity & Affair Support

Improve Your Mental Health by Practicing Emotional First Aid by Guy Winch, Ph.D. The importance of treating common psychological injuries We sustain common psychological injuries such as rejection or failure as regularly as we do physical ones such as cuts or scrapes. But while we’re extremely aware of the need …

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Affair Forgiveness

Forgiveness, With a Side of Grudge by Stephanie Anderson (edited) Have you told your cheating spouse you forgive him/her, only… you still harbor a colossal-sized grudge? It’s not unusual for an affair victim to try to rush the healing process, only to move even further apart from their spouse rather …

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Healing From an Affair: Self-Focus

When you discover that an affair has hit your relationship, it can be an unpleasant surprise to also discover that you no longer know how to be yourself. It’s not uncommon for people to lose themselves in their marriage (or long term committed relationship), focusing on children, partner, household, and …

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Infidelity and Affairs: Help in Overview

Infidelity: Mending Your Marriage After an Affair By Mayo Clinic staff Infidelity causes intense emotional pain, but an affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage. Understand how a marriage can be rebuilt after an affair. Few marital problems cause as much heartache and devastation as infidelity. Money …

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Post-Affair Break-Up: Coping

Infidelity & Affair Help: Barton Goldsmith

10 Things to Remember After a Break-Up by Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. (edited) We have all been through it and, at best, a breakup is a difficult situation. Here are some tips and advice to help you make it through this rough patch. 1. You are not going to be thinking …

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The Trauma of Infidelity

Infidelity & Affair Help: Robert Weiss

This article by Robert Weiss explores infidelity and characterizes it as trauma. Dr David J. Ley’s article, Abusing the Term Trauma takes the counter-argument that the term trauma is inappropriately used by clinicians (and the lay person) in relation to infidelity. Mr Weiss makes reference to the emotional fallout and …

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Affair Help: Negative Thoughts and Acceptance

An affair can bring your self-esteem and view of the world crashing down around you, while you stand frozen in rage and disbelief. Moving past outrage and moralizing about what is wrong about an affair can be difficult. Most affair help offers very little in concrete advice for how to …

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Affair Help: Triggers, Hype, and Healing

I’m mindful to avoid perpetuating certain myths that exist on infidelity sites and discussion forums, particularly those that seem to perpetuate the ‘diagnosis’ or belief that infidelity and affairs are always the product of mental health illness. Some of these sites additionally seem to universally decree that every faithful spouse …

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