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The Mistake Defense

9 April, 2013

“It Was a Mistake” One of the most common phrases we hear from the unfaithful partner is, “It was a mistake.” They may have admitted the affair, or they may have been unexpectedly discovered in one, but for those who don’t want to lose their primary relationship, the ‘Mistake Defense’ …

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Affairs, Fantasies, and Bad Decisions

10 March, 2013

Why We Make Bad Decisions by Daniel Gilbert Ph.D Dan Gilbert believes that, in our ardent, lifelong pursuit of happiness, most of us have the wrong map. In the same way that optical illusions fool our eyes — and fool everyone’s eyes in the same way — Gilbert argues that …

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Affair Help: Excuses and Justifications

7 March, 2013
Psychology: Infidelity & Affair help

Affairs: “I Treated Myself to a Marital Crisis” by Aaron Ben-Zeév, Ph.D. Excuses for Having an Extramarital Affair “Whoever wants to be a judge of human nature should study people’s excuses.” ~ Hebbel “Fidelity is possible—anything is possible, if you’re stubborn and strong. But it’s not that important.” ~ Michelle …

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Infidelity: A Bad Decision?

28 October, 2012

Over the years I have encountered countless occasions where, when confronted with their infidelity, cheaters say, “I don’t know why I did it” and “It was a mistake”. It is far better characterized (in my view) as “a poor choice” or “a bad decision”, and this article by Dr Laura …

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