The St Valentine’s Day Massacre

Coping with an affair on Valentine's Day

Coping With an Affair on Valentine’s Day The expectations that we have about Valentine’s Day are so ingrained culturally that being single has almost become stigmatized for the day. It’s the one day of the year when the status of our relationships -and our relationship status-  is on display and…

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Infidelity and Divorce: Divorce Day

3rd January Named Most Popular Day for Divorce Happy New Year? It might not be a surprise to those who frequent infidelity support boards, but some firms quote the rate of divorce inquiries in the New Year as almost double the normal rates. Elizabeth Hassall, partner in the Gateley law…

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New Year @ Infidelity Help Group

Happy New Year When your life has exploded because of an affair, the chirpy ‘Happy New Year’ season can leave you cycling between upset and sobbing, vicious snarling and voodoo dolls, and fervent hopes that your new year will indeed be happy. If you’ve been through it, you will understand…

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Christmas Day @ Infidelity Help Group

Wishing you all a tranquil and peaceful Christmas. If you find yourself here today for the first time dealing with an affair at Christmas and searching for help and support, my heartfelt sympathies and best wishes are with you. There may be users in the Chat Room but it is probably…

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I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus …

I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus ...

The Christmas Cheating Song I know, I know, that cute song by wholesome little Jimmy Boyd wasn’t about cheating. Leave our cute Christmas songs alone. Leave us that one thing untarnished, at least! Santa was Daddy, dammit! Why do I have to bring everything back to infidelity?! (The clue is in the…

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Last Minute Guide to Cheater Gifts

IHG’s Top Ten Cheater Gifts A seasonal question was posed in our forum last week: “What do you get a cheater for Christmas?” Giving a cheater a gift for Christmas isn’t something I recommend, but I understand that some people (Pixies particularly) might have other ideas. So, the ever-helpful IHG community got together…

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It’s Not an Affair Because …

Affair Rationalization

The Rancid Goop of Cheater-Think In general, cheaters don’t like to admit their affairs. It’s understandable – it opens them up to censure, judgment, and loss on multiple levels. They want to avoid the consequences to their choices and one strategy they employ is to deflect, gaslight, and deny. “You’re crazy:…

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My Affair Was Your Fault

Cheaters Who Google Imagine a world where websites can see the Google search terms you used to find their site. *Gasp!* *Shock!* Who knew?! Who gave them permission to know why I am on their site, using their resources? That’s damned unconstitutional! I don’t care about SEO and all that fancy website…

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The Reconciliation Jigsaw Puzzle

Common Troubles in Reconciliation My cheater doesn’t really ‘get it’. My cheater seems to be carrying on with life as normal, while I’m struggling. They say they’re sorry but it doesn’t feel enough. We’re reconciling but I’m miserable. I want to see change but I’m not. If these things sound…

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Don’t Pet the Snakes: Dealing With Cheaters

Don't Pet the Snakes

So, you discovered your spouse’s affair and the world has been turned on its head. You are devastated, furious, confused, and clingy all at the same time, desperately trying to make sense of a) how it happened b) why it happened c) if it’s still happening and d) what you…

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