Reconciliation: Farewells and Returns

margaret-atwood“Farewells can be shattering, but returns are surely worse. Solid flesh can never live up to the bright shadow cast by its absence. Time and distance blur the edges; then suddenly the beloved has arrived, and it’s noon with its merciless light, and every spot and pore and wrinkle and bristle stands clear.”
~ Margaret Atwood

Livid: The Lover’s Dictionary

“livid, adj. Fuck You for cheating on me. Fuck you for reducing it to the word cheating. As if this were a card game, and you sneaked a look at my hand. Who came up with the term cheating, anyway? A cheater, I imagine. Someone who thought liar was too harsh. Someone who thought devastator was too …

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Controlling Others

“Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.”

~ Thomas à Kempis

Affair Help Quotations: Acceptance

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ~ Loa Tzu            Affair help quotations that we hope may inspire, strengthen, support and provide …

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Infidelity: No One is Immune

No One is Immune

Peggy Vaughan, Extramarital Affairs Resource Center

Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth

The most immediate reason we need to be informed about affairs is because no one is immune from having affairs disrupt their lives or the lives of those they care about; they happen to all kinds of people, in all walks of life. Traditionally our attitude has been that unless it touches us personally, we deal with it by ignoring it, denying it, or condemning it. Unfortunately, this does nothing either to help deter affairs or to deal with their consequences. If we’re to be the kind of caring, compassionate society we aspire to be, we can’t turn our backs on the countless people who are suffering alone.”

Helping Somebody Like You

Because I know something you don’t know …

Because I know something that you don’t know. I know that this is the worst experience of your life, but I also know that someday you’ll move past it and you’ll be fine. And helping somebody like you through the worst experience of her life is incredibly gratifying.”

Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love