The Signs We Ignore

Suzanne Finnamore“I sensed he may have occasionally strayed in some of his past relationships. It was something I felt but ignored, a rent in the fabric of an otherwise splendid garment I thought I could mend. I thought I could live with it—I thought, yes and I admit it, that I would be different. That at the very least, middle age and children would slow him down; however, they seemed to accelerate his pace.” 
~ Suzanne Finnamore, Split: A Memoir of Divorce

The Guilt Trip to Therapy

Did You Cause the Affair? The reactions to discovering an affair are manifold, but the immediate reaction to the discovery of an affair is generally not, “I did this, I caused this.” The initial reaction is more commonly one of an outraged, “How could you?!” In this reaction is the …

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Infidelity Immunity

Infidelity Immunity: Why Gimmicks and Jewelry Won’t Keep Affairs Away by Lesli Doares Furthering the discussion of radical honesty and its connection to the vow to honor your partner, I think it’s important to address one of the greatest fears couples face:  infidelity.  Like weight loss without exercising or changing …

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Affairs: Choice or Mental Disorder?

Dr George Simon

Related posts: It’s Not Infidelity - It’s Sex Addiction Choice Not Addiction The IHG position on the sex addiction model and mental health in infidelity is further discussed in: Part 3: Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction and Part 2: Affair Fog Theory: Mental Health ~ Wayfarer [hr] Mental Disorders and Accountability: …

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Forgive a Cheater? (Part 2)

Helen Sampson

Yesterday’s post, Forgive a Cheater (Part 1) told Helen Sampson’s story of reconciling with her cheating husband, Brian. Why you should NEVER forgive a cheater by Helen Sampson (edited) Helen did. Here she explains why it was the biggest mistake of her life. The realisation almost took my breath away. …

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Forgive a Cheater? (Part 1)

My Husband’s a Cheating Rascal - But His Affair SAVED Our Marriage by Angela Carless Would you take your spouse back if they had an affair - and could betrayal really make a marriage stronger - could you forgive a cheater? It’s a question Helen Sampson, 52, had to ask …

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Infidelity Myths

Lorna Hecht-Zablow1

4 Common Myths about Infidelity by Lorna Hecht-Zablow (edited) People have lots of theories about why infidelity is as common as it is. Most of these theories don’t hold water. It is difficult to deal with an issue that is so painful and destructive to families. Therefore, it is important to try …

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Affair Intuition

Dr Stanley H Block

Affair Intuition: Not Missing The Signs by Stanley H. Block, M.D. Myths About Infidelity Myth One- You will miss the early signs. Myth Two- Love makes you blind. Myth Three- You can recognize the early signs of infidelity by using your logical mind. Realities About Infidelity Reality One- Your intuition …

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Affair Myths: Affairs are Good for Marriages

Recommended reading: More articles about affair myths that suggest an affair can can improve or save your relationship: The Modern Affair Myth Affairs Can Save a Marriage: Myth or Mendacity? ~ Wayfarer [hr] Can an Affair Ever be GOOD for Your Marriage? by Bel Mooney Every single week I read …

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The Emotional Affair: Fidelity is Holistic

Infidelity & Affair Help: A Fresh Perspective

“Sin Boldly”: Against the Trap of the “Emotional” Affair by Hugo Scwhyzer A friend of mine with whom I’ve had many conversations about feminism and older men/younger women relationships wrote me a note last week about a close acquaintance of hers, a young woman of 21 who is having an …

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