The Reconciliation Jigsaw Puzzle

Infidelity Jigsaw Pieces

Common Troubles in Reconciliation My cheater doesn’t really ‘get it’. My cheater seems to be carrying on with life as normal, while I’m struggling. They say they’re sorry but it doesn’t feel enough. We’re reconciling but I’m miserable. I want to see change but I’m not. If these things sound …

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Maintenance Update


Some of you are already reporting that you can see the site on its new server. If you can’t tell if you are viewing us on the new server or not, a) that’s how it should be and b) if you’re reading this post then yes, you’re seeing the new server …

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About Yesterday’s Band-Aid …


When you’re going through the the mess of an affair, access to resources like IHG can be a real life-line, and we feel frustrated on your behalf when our services are interrupted, whatever the reason. We’ve experienced a number of issues with our hosting service over the years and could …

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Site Availability

All Fixed

I apologize for the issues with the site today. Some of you may have been able to access the site and/or the forum, while others are not connecting and instead get a timed-out notice. Unfortunately, our host service is experiencing technical problems affecting a considerable number of sites hosted on their servers, not …

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The Magic Reconciliation Recipe

Magic Reconciliation Recipe

The Magic Marital Formula: If They’re Selling, We’re Buying After an affair has been disclosed or discovered, the immediate intent is generally to keep the relationship together at all costs. It’s understandable as a knee-jerk reaction – faithful spouses and cheaters alike often cling to the familiarity and security that the relationship represents. When …

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Why Can’t My Cheater Choose?


Cheater Confusion One subject that we tackle regularly with faithful spouses is the question of why their cheater won’t choose. “Why can’t he just decide if he wants me or her, so that I can  move on?” “She can’t make up her mind and keeps saying she’s confused.” “He says …

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Affair Exposure: Brave or Manipulative?

Affair Exposure

You don’t have to look far to find a slew of sites that advocate the necessity and success of affair exposure, where the faithful spouse is advised to ‘out’ their cheater’s affair as a strategy to protect the marriage and bring about the demise of the affair relationship. It was highlighted …

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