The Mistress of Self-Deception

Affair Help: The Mistress

To borrow an expression from Forrest Gump, deception and affairs go together like peas and carrots (or like gin and tonic, if you’re disinclined to waste your calories on anything that looks like a vegetable ). We tend to post mortem the cheater’s deceptions -we dissect, slice, dice, and examine …

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Did You Know and Why Did You Put Up With It?

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Did You Know? Faithful spouses often find themselves surrounded by poorly informed people asking them, “Did you know?“ “How could you have not known?“ “Did you miss the signs?“ “Why did you put up with it?“ There’s a salacious element to the questions of course because infidelity makes great movie and …

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Je Suis Chump Lady

U Mad Bro

U Mad Bro?: The Trouble With Trolls For those of you who are Chump Lady fans as we are, you might be aware of her recent post, Chump Lady Talks to Her Trolls. Trolling is a euphemism of course – in this case it’s a euphemism for anonymous and cowardly harassment …

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Proof can be Weaker Than Truth

Infidelity Test

Proof of an Affair It’s standard advice on many infidelity support sites: Don’t confront without proof. It makes sense – why would you accuse your spouse of an affair without strong evidence that it’s actually happening? Why would you show your hand prematurely, risking that your cheater goes into clean-up mode, erasing …

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Can an Affair Make Your Relationship Stronger?

Affairs: Warning Signs

The Modern ‘Affairs Save Marriages’ Myth We came across a particularly nauseating article by Dr Michael Broder, ‘Can an affair make your relationship stronger?‘. There is a very simple and concise answer to the question Broder posed of course, and it’s this: No. Affairs are not red flags alerting you to your failure to meet …

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New Year @ Infidelity Help Group

New Year @ Infidelity Help Group

We Aren’t Wishing You a Happy New Year … It can be difficult to wish people a Merry Christmas when they are in the middle of dealing with the fallout of an affair. A chirpy and perky, ‘Merry Christmas!’ often does nothing more than induce a wave of nausea, a growl …

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