New Year @ Infidelity Help Group 2017

  Happy New Year When your life has exploded because of an affair, the chirpy ‘Happy New Year’ season can leave you cycling between upset and sobbing, vicious snarling and voodoo dolls, and fervent hopes that your new year will indeed be happy. If you’ve been through it, you will …

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Christmas Day @ Infidelity Help Group 2016

Infidelity and Self-Pity

Wishing you all a tranquil and peaceful Christmas. If you find yourself here today for the first time dealing with an affair at Christmas and searching for help and support, my heartfelt sympathies and best wishes are with you. There may be users in the Chat Room but it is probably …

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Coping at Thanksgiving

Infidelity Help: Thanksgiving Day

Affair Help for Thanksgiving The darker, colder days brought by winter can undoubtedly make it harder to cope with the sense of loss, depression and helplessness when an affair has affected your life. When national holidays like Thanksgiving come around, it can be a further painful hurdle to negotiate. It’s not …

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Six Degrees of Standing in Reconciliation

Standing for Your Marriage Strictly speaking, Standing is a specific term used to describe one spouse’s intent to stay married despite the other spouse’s action and intent to leave. It’s a term typically used in Christian marital teachings where the marriage is held sacrosanct, the cheater is characterized as lost and/or broken, …

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I’m the Other Woman: Should I Tell His Wife?

I’m the Other Woman: Should I Tell His wife? While a lot of this article is applicable to affair partners of both genders, the experience at IHG is that the other woman is overwhelmingly more likely to disclose an affair to the faithful partner, and to do so with malicious intent. …

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Rules and Boundaries for My Mistress

Rules and boundaries for my mistress

Cheaters Who Google. Again. The search terms that bring people to the IHG site can make interesting reading. The searches by faithful partners can be useful to help us decide what content to publish and which published content is of greatest interest to people. Those search terms are -understandably-  typically about affair fog, …

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Remorse Carrots & Reconciliation

Much Ado About Remorse Remorse. If you venture onto most infidelity support sites, remorse is high on the list of ‘Right Things’ required for reconciliation after an affair – remorse is seen as the key ingredient in the Magic Reconciliation Recipe. It’s often expounded as: The cheater must feel remorse. The cheater …

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