Six Degrees of Standing in Reconciliation


Standing for Your Marriage Strictly speaking, Standing is a specific term used to describe one spouse’s intent to stay married despite the other spouse’s action and intent to leave. It’s a term typically used in Christian marital teachings where the marriage is held sacrosanct, the cheater is characterized as lost and/or broken, …

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I’m the Other Woman: Should I Tell His Wife?


I’m the Other Woman: Should I Tell His wife? While a lot of this article is applicable to affair partners of both genders, the experience at IHG is that the other woman is overwhelmingly more likely to disclose an affair to the faithful partner, and to do so with malicious intent. …

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Rules and Boundaries for My Mistress

Rules and boundaries for my mistress

Cheaters Who Google. Again. The search terms that bring people to the IHG site can make interesting reading. The searches by faithful partners can be useful to help us decide what content to publish and which published content is of greatest interest to people. Those search terms are -understandably-  typically about affair fog, …

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Remorse Carrots & Reconciliation

Remorse Carrots

Much Ado About Remorse Remorse. If you venture onto most infidelity support sites, remorse is high on the list of ‘Right Things’ required for reconciliation after an affair – remorse is seen as the key ingredient in the Magic Reconciliation Recipe. It’s often expounded as: The cheater must feel remorse. The cheater …

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Site Comment Function

All Fixed

I apologize to those of you who have recently experienced difficulties when submitting comments to the site. This was a glitch on our end caused by some software going rogue and being over zealous in what it identified as spam. The issue is now resolved and the comment functionality should …

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Under Pressure After the Affair

Faithful Spouse: Under Pressure

Cling Kong and the Magical Reconciliation Pixie Hands up if you feel under pressure about the decisions you make in the aftermath of the affair. If you raised your hand (mentally or otherwise) then you know exactly what I am talking about: The affair has bulldozed you into eating a …

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The St Valentine’s Day Massacre

Coping with an affair on Valentine's Day

Coping With an Affair on Valentine’s Day The expectations that we have about Valentine’s Day are so ingrained culturally that being single has almost become stigmatized for the day. It’s the one day of the year when the status of our relationships -and our relationship status-  is on display and …

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Infidelity and Divorce: Divorce Day

Divorce Highlight

3rd January Named Most Popular Day for Divorce Happy New Year? It might not be a surprise to those who frequent infidelity support boards, but some firms quote the rate of divorce inquiries in the New Year as almost double the normal rates. Elizabeth Hassall, partner in the Gateley law …

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